January 14, 2008
Your name is ___, and you used to date DF
I’d feel sorry for the poor guy, if he weren’t wholly responsible for what’s about to happen to him.
From my vantage point, it’s amusing. They meet her, and are immediately smitten. They always want more, always want to try to have as much of her as they can get.
It’s not in her nature to give them much. She’s mastered the art of detached warmth, the ability to be perfectly nice and considerate and a really fun person to be around, without giving them a millimeter more than she’s ready to.
And gentlemen, those millimeters, worthy as they are, have to be earned.
So when I heard that yet another one had gotten sufficiently frustrated to renounce his candidacy, I shook my head and smiled a bit. I’ve seen this before, many times over.
There really should be a support group for people in his position. He’ll need it in a few weeks, when he realizes the cost of his impatience. By that time, at least a few more will have emerged – some who made the same mistake and are asking for a second chance, some who have just begun to realize who it is they’ve met. She’ll be patiently explaining her terms to someone new, and he’ll be realizing that the reasons he found them difficult have little to do with her, and everything to do with his insecurity.
And then, all he’ll have to hold onto is the receipt for the cordless drill he got this particular apartment-dweller as a Christmas gift. Seriously, dude? At least if you’d gotten her a blender, she could’ve made margaritas.
Your name is ____, and you used to date DF. Registration line forms at the left.
Look – I feel like I have to step in here, because there’s a lot of stuff being pointed in the wrong direction.
I hoped that people would understand that my take on this situation was just that – my take. What my friend might be thinking, and how she views the situation, are not represented here at ALL. As far as I know, she hasn’t read here in some time. She’s not here to defend herself. So kindly back the fuck off of her, please.
If you’re going to tell someone to get over anyone, please direct such comments at me. I’m the one who’s suggesting that he’s making a mistake, that he will likely regret taking this step after he’s had some time to realize everything that she brought to his life, even if it wasn’t exactly what he thought he wanted at first.
That’s all me. Please respond accordingly.